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Popular Nigerian dancer and choreographer, Kafayat Oluwatoyin Shafau, professionally known as Kaffy has broken her silence over her recently collapsed marriage.
Speaking during a podcast session titled ‘Mindfulness’, the dance queen revealed that she is still on good terms with her estranged husband, Joseph Ameh despite their divorce.
The 41-year-old didn’t clearly mention the reason for the split, though she expressed her gratitude to her ex-hubby for the wonderful time they had together during their marriage.
“I’ve always wanted to see my ex in the best version of him,” she said.
On why their marriage hit the rocks, Kaffy said, “And even taking a chance of breaking off this marriage was also to see that we both grew in what we really are supposed to be.”
She explained that her marriage didn’t work out the way she wanted it, but that doesn’t give her room to start reacting to the problem, because sometimes, the person complaining might be the problem.
“Marriage is supposed to be an alignment, of destiny, that’s, for couple to drive to a place God wants for them. And mine really didn’t work out that way. And rather than looking at someone as the problem, sometimes, you could be the problem of that person. You know, being an enabler, of someone not being able to do what they’re supposed to do can also be that you’re not supposed to be in that space,” the mother-of-two said.
Advising her fans and disclosing lessons she learnt from the failed marriage, Kaffy urged everyone to understand that life isn’t all about reacting to the world and everything happening inside of it.
She advised, “So, there was a lot to learn and there are still a lot to learn. And I want to express that and motivate you to understand that life is not all about reacting to the world.
“It’s not all about reacting to the world, what the world want, what the world want you to hear, want you to be, want you to look like, want you to marry.”
In 2012, Kaffy tied the knot with Joseph Ameh, a music producer, director and drummer. The union is blessed with two children, Sean Oluwatosin Joseph Ameh, and Eliana Ameh.
