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Dear Moyoade,
As the days crept upon us in the fullness of its seasons, it is indeed a great joy to be celebrating with you in a different atmosphere, an atmosphere testing our resolve to remain true to where we were from.
Dear Son, as you turn nine, I am reflecting upon how much you’ve grown and the responsibilities that come with this age. The journey we’ve embarked upon, leaving our homeland for a new and unfamiliar place, has been challenging, but it’s also filled with growth opportunities. I must admit starting a new life in a strange land can be daunting but I am amazed at how effortlessly you transitioned, navigating these challenges with grace.
Ubuntu as you commence a new age beckoning at a decade on earth, one of the most significant things I want you to hold onto is your heritage. You are Yoruba, and that is a part of you that should never fade. Our culture, our language, and our values are treasures that will guide you throughout your life. The wisdom of our forefathers is in the proverbs, the traditions, and the stories that I will continue to share with you.
I understand you are often lost and at times wonder what is so important about not losing your root but as the days go by and you relate across cultures, you will understand that the existence of every being is embedded in the values his culture impressed on him. Remember what our forefathers said,” Odò tó bá gbàgbé orísun rẹ, gbígbẹ ló máa gbẹ (A river that forgets (or ignores) its source, will certainly dry up.) No matter where you are in the world, remember that your roots run deep in the rich soil of Yoruba land. Never forget the importance of iwa pele—good character—as it is more valuable than gold.
Knowledge is another treasure you must seek. I see how curious you are, always asking questions that make me pause and think. Your inquisitiveness is a gift, one that will serve you well if you nurture it. Remember the words of Margaret Fuller: “If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it.” Continue to acquire knowledge, but do so with patience and circumspection. Not all answers will come easily, and not all information is true. Learn to sift through what you hear, understand it deeply, and use it wisely. Moyoade my Son, read in between the lines, knowledge acquired is only powerful if shared and used to nurture.
Omo Mi, remember our journey here isn’t just about adapting; it’s about thriving and standing tall in the face of adversity. Permit me to remind you that the last year is just the tip of the iceberg, there will be more hurdles to cross and it will get tougher as you age but at every turn, you will need to draw strength from your inner self to be who you are destined to be.
This new environment comes with its own set of challenges. As you adjust, you may encounter people who see you differently because of the colour of your skin. Remember, Son, that you are not defined by their perceptions but by your actions, character, and how you treat others. Stand tall against any form of bullying, but be careful not to become a bully yourself. It’s a delicate balance, I can only seek Olodumare’s guidance and wisdom for you to navigate it.
Your school performance last term was commendable, but the road ahead will only get tougher. As you grow, the expectations will grow with you. This is why you must buckle up and face the challenges head-on. Persist, persevere, and maintain a positive attitude. These three Ps will guide you through any difficulty, just as they have guided me. Remember, akoko lo, ko to dan—the journey may be long, but the reward is sweet.
As the firstborn, you have responsibilities to your brothers. I know we are asking a lot of you by expecting you to look after them, especially at your age. But remember, this is not just about duty; it’s about love. Your brothers, Tiwalade and Adebola look up to you, and in many ways, you are their role model, it is just what it is.. I worry sometimes that we are rushing your childhood, but I believe you develop the strength to balance these responsibilities while still being the vibrant, curious boy that you are.
Remember Adesola, your mother loves you deeply. She works tirelessly to ensure that you and your brothers are safe, happy, and growing into fine young men. Always endeavour to listen to her, respect her, and protect her just as I strive to do every day. In this life, there are few things more precious than the bond between a mother and her son.
Ubuntu, I won’t be here forever. This thought lingers in my mind more often these days. But while I am here, know that you can count on me for anything. My love and support for you are unwavering. As you grow older, you will have more questions, and I will continue to do my best to guide you, even as I learn from you and through you.
Turning nine comes with new privileges and responsibilities. After much thought—and perhaps too much pressure—I’ve decided to get you an iPad. It’s not just a gift; it’s a tool for your education and growth. This is a big step, and it marks the beginning of a new phase in your life. Use it wisely, Son. Technology is a powerful tool, but it must be handled with responsibility and care.
As you grow older, remember the wisdom in these words: “If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it.” Keep pushing forward, my Son, even when the road is tough. Life is not always fair, and people will often believe what they want to believe. But never stop striving to be reasonable, fair, and just. Stay true to your values, hold fast to your culture, and always remember who you are.
With all my love and hope for your future,
Your Father,
Sulaimon Mojeed-Sanni
