By Hugh Onah
Happy International Women’s Day to every woman out there. The role of women in our society cannot be over emphasized, as our mothers, sisters, aunties, they put the spark in everything they do. Women in this decade and generation have proven that they are not just home makers, they have gone further to dominate other spheres of life and their influence is fully felt on all fronts.
With the rise of the Feminist, Inclusion, Bosschic and Girlboss movement, we have seen a lot of women rise to prominent positions that were once only male dominated and many homes now have the women being the breadwinners and not just helpers as was the norm. These and many more are the reasons why is it important to celebrate the beauty, brains and brawn of women all over the world.
The family unit is a significant part of any society and it is a belief around the world that the success of every family is greatly influenced by the woman as the homemaker. In as much as that is debatable, this belief holds a lot of water. A couple in a marriage should look to each person putting in a 100%, communicating effectively with each other, compromising when necessary and find a winning recipe that works for their particular marriage. In all these, mistakes can be made but how they choose to resolve these mistakes is most important. Going by statistics, you find more men engaging in extramarital affairs in this part of the world than women; whether it is reported in the news or by a viral video on social media or just an argument among couples around you, you would see a pattern where you have the wife and the other woman duking it out and you get to ask, where is the man?
Women have managed to crack the code on a lot of things; parenting, business, social dynamics, you name it but when it comes to dealing with a cheating or disloyal partner/spouse, they seem to throw caution to the wind. Granted, however you feel is right but your actions are necessarily not the best in the given time. You stood at the altar to exchange vows to be faithful until death or you made promise of a future together for those who aren’t married so, isn’t that to say that your spouse/partner are the ones you should be fighting with? Ladies, the other woman may not even know you exist and even if they do, your partner made that conscious decision to step out on what you both share so hash it out with him/her.
Jumping on ‘Break The Bias’ which is the theme for this year’s International Women’s Day celebration, I believe the women should take a page from the men’s playbook because if two men have a similar issue, the lady would be the one bearing the brunt of it all. We can’t stand for this bias anymore as women can’t be the victim even when they are at fault or not. Women, the moment we take back the power and make the move to break the bias to see that the other woman isn’t the problem in our marriages but the spouse with a promise to keep, we would be one step closer to together.
